male orgasims masturbating

It’s no secret that male masturbation is one of the best ways to achieve an orgasm – but what goes into making the most out of it? I’ll tell you what works best for me.​

Firstly, I feel it’s important to set the mood.​ I’ve found that listening to calming music, burning scented candles, or taking the time to meditate beforehand helps me to really get into the zone and enjoy my session.​ Of course, everybody’s different – what relaxes me may not be what relaxes someone else.​

I like to focus on the moment, really taking each sensation in.​ I move my body in ways that feel pleasurable, starting out slow and then ultimately building up the rhythm and intensity.​ I’m constantly checking in with myself to make sure I’m going at the perfect pace – not too fast, not too slow.​

I use visual aids too – either a fantasy I’ve acting out in my head, or downloading sexy videos/images on my phone.​ Constantly changing up the visual stimulus helps to keep my arousal at a level where I can really enjoy what I’m doing.​

Focusing on my breath helps too.​ My favourite breathing technique right now is to shorten my exhales and hold my breath for a few seconds before releasing it.​ Doing this can help to build enough intensity for me to reach my peak.​

Additionally, I switch up the pressure often and rely heavily on lube.​ Having a slick experience helps the over all sensation to really hit the spot and keeps me from getting too sore.​

I’ve found that sometimes it’s good to add a bit of spice.​ I might add a vibrator or lay on a flat surface so I can get a really good grind going.​ I often combine the feeling of my hand with a well lubricated sex dolls toy to get the most out of my orgasm.​

I never forget the power of positive thinking too.​ Instead of letting negative thoughts creep in, I focus on the pleasure, turning everything negative into a motivator.​ It’s amazing how simply flipping your perspective can take things from a watching-paint-dry situation to absolute novelty.​

Also, I’m not ashamed to ask for help when I need it.​ Some days my mind plays tricks on me and keeps me from staying consistent with pleasure, but when I have someone helping me out, it becomes a hundred times easier to stay focused.​

Finally, I finish off with a bit of visualization.​ I like to imagine the orgasmic energy radiating out of me, travelling further and further from my body and into the universe.​ This helps me to become fully immersed in the experience and makes taking in all the pleasurable sensations way easier.​

In summary, the key to great masturbation for me has really been to stay openminded and just keep experimenting.​ I’ve found that exploring different sensations and visual aids is the key to great solo sessions, as well as asking for help from others when I need it and taking the time to positive affirmations afterwards.​

But it doesn’t just end with self care, good communication is essential too.​ When it comes to consensual, enjoyable sex, honesty and understanding go a long way – you’ve got to be willing to talk about what feels good and what doesn’t work for you.​ That way you’ll make sure to get the most out of every experience.​

I also think it’s important to remember that sex doesn’t have to be strictly physical––sometimes playing with your mind can be just as arousing and pleasurable.​ Watching a sexy movie, engaging in a steamy phone conversation, Penis Rings or simply talking dirty can be a great way to weed out fantasy from reality and truly open yourself up to the experience.​

Speaking of fantasy, experimenting with the idea of domination and submission has become a new favorite past time for me.​ I’ve found that when I’m in control, I’m typically able to reach my highest peaks, and when I relinquish control, I’m often surprised to find a new level of pleasure hiding just beneath the surface.​

Finally, and perhaps most importantly, accepting and loving yourself as you are is critical.​ Self-love can take a variety of forms and while masturbation is just one of them, it’s certainly the most intimate.​ So go on, spoil yourself and enjoy the ride.​