how are you.supposed.to.feel.when.you.come homeand he has a new sex toy
I know how it feels to come home expecting one thing and getting something entirely different. It happened to me last weekend. When I walked into the house, I heard weird noises coming from the bedroom. I thought to myself, “Oh no, what’s he done now?” Then I walked in and I saw it—a new sex toy!
I didn’t know whether to laugh or to cry. I mean, sure, I know that it’s not really a big deal and it’s really none of my business what a person chooses to do in the privacy of their own home. And yes, I did have an inkling that my partner likes to experiment in the bedroom, but—a sex toy?
The first thing that went through my mind was “What am I supposed to feel?” Am I supposed to be angry? Should I be jealous? Confused? Amused?
It takes time to process these kinds of feelings—and I felt all kinds of things at once. But eventually, I came to terms with it. I decided that I could be supportive. I could accept the fact that these sorts of things happen, and I could be open-minded enough to understand why my partner might want to try this. In the end, I felt grateful that my partner trusts me enough to share this with me.
Clinging to my newfound positivity, I tried to pleasant conversation on the topic. “What inspired this purchase?” I asked my partner. He said that he had wanted to try something new and fun and explore our sex life in a different way.
After some more conversation, I realized that having a new sex toy didn’t have to be a bad thing. In fact, it could open up new avenues for communication and exploration. I could use this as an opportunity to learn new things, to be adventurous, and to express my appreciation for my partner’s willingness to be open-minded.
We ended up having a great conversation about sex, pleasure, and all the other things that make physical intimacy so special. In the end, it was a learning experience that actually helped us grow closer.
The conversation inspired me to look at sex toys differently. I had seen them as intimidating at first, but with an open mind and a willingness to learn, I came to understand that these kinds of things were just tools—tools to promote pleasure, communication, and connection.
I also had an epiphany of sorts—I felt that if I was able to be this open-minded and accepting of something that I could have easily judged, I was capable of being open-minded and accepting of many other things. This was a perspective shift that made me feel empowered and enlightened.
So, I guess, sex toys the takeaway is that you never know exactly how you’re supposed to feel when something like this happens. But if you take the time to process your feelings, you can grow and learn in unexpected ways. It may even turn out to be a positive experience!